35 Truths

Back in September, I turned 35. I was a few weeks postpartum and to be honest, was not how I imagined I would bring in 35. But when the 17th got here, I realized this was exactly what I prayed for and then some. It’s funny because I remember saying, “I want to be done having kids by 35” and I made it just in time LOL. I celebrated with my family and dinner with my closest girls and the day was perfect.

As I reflect on the most recent years and my growth, here are 35 truths about life, love, motherhood, and everything in between:

1. You’re not behind on anything in life. God’s timing is specific to and for you.
2. Motherhood changes everything – you included.
3. Find mom friends, you’ll need them.
4. You’ll miss different parts of your life and that’s ok.
5. On the other side of fear, there’s growth.
6. You’re only limit to achieving things are your doubts.
7. Everyone is not a hater but some people will not like you. It
8. Your life may be a trigger of hurt for others, don’t take it personally.
9. You’ll have less stress if you don’t take things personally.
10. My professional is personal.
11. My confidence comes from being Nigerian and there’s nothing I can’t do or learn to do.
12. Give up only after you’ve given up your best.
13. Be mindful of who you share information with.
14. Who you pick for a spouse is critical. Choose wisely.
15. Know a little bit about everything and a lot about ONE thing.
16. Helping someone else doesn’t take away from your blessings.
17. Be kind. Always.
18. Don’t believe everything you read or see on social media.
19. The grass is really greener where you water it.
20. Focus on the things that grow you.
21. Do as much good as you can wherever you go.
22. Volunteer your time if you can’t volunteer your money.
23. Leave the room better than when you came in.
24. Travel is truly the best medicine.
25. Stressing never solves anything because it always works out how it’s supposed to.
26. The best part about parenting is you get to write your own rules for your family.
27. Go full throttle in your dreams and ideas. Then watch the magic happen.
28. Tell people the truth, in love. Even when it’s hard.
29. Basic life insurance is a must. There’s not a good enough reason to not have it.
30. Each postpartum journey is different, be gracious to yourself and your body.
31. You are not better than anyone. And on the flip side, no one is better than you.
32. Truly connect with people…and don’t forget them.
33. Be the friend you want for yourself.
34. Be clear in your words and actions. Both personally and professionally.
35. There’s no one like you. Lean into what makes you, YOU.